Here’s part 2 of 4 of my August to November Facebook links!
Marriage and Parenting
- How to Destroy Your Marriage Before It Begins. “One of Satan’s most effective strategies to corrupt the gospel-portraying union of marriage is to attack couples through sexual sin before they say “I do.” Here are four of his most common ploys to attack marriages before they begin.”
- I’m Gay and I Oppose Same-Sex Marriage. “I wholeheartedly support civil unions for gay and lesbian couples, but I am opposed to same-sex marriage. Because activists have made marriage, rather than civil unions, their goal, I am viewed by many as a self-loathing, traitorous gay. So be it. I prefer to think of myself as a reasoning, intellectually honest human being.”
- “Kangaroo Mothers” and the Power of Touch. This is so fascinating!”In the early 1980s, two pediatricians in Bogota, Colombia, made waves around the world for a new method of caring for premature babies. The method, called Kangaroo Care, was so named because of how it resembles marsupial caregiving: A mother snuggles her baby, upright, against her bare chest for long periods of time.”
- PM misrepresents the Bible. A debrief from Kevin Rudd’s appearance on the ABC’s Q&A in September from The Briefing.
- Sex is a thermostat, and other things I wish I’d known. “When I married, I knew the importance of regular physical intimacy, and that sex was a thermometer for gauging the temperature of our marriage. But I never realized that in many ways sex is also a thermostat; it can keep a marriage stable when conditions surrounding you are anything but.”
- Don Jon: Pornography, Hollywood, and a Wake-Up Call to Young Men. “Editor’s Note: This article analyzes a film that uses highly mature language and images. Reader discretion is advised.”
- Don Jon’s Religion: Why the Church Often Fails to Help Porn Addicts. “Is your church providing help for sinners, or are you forcing them to look elsewhere for answers? Does your church do anything that has worked well to support Gospel-centered accountability and healing?”
- Experiment that convinced me online porn is the most pernicious threat facing children today. An article written by a former editor of a “gentleman’s” magazine.
- Fornicating on the Battlefield. “When I ask men about their sexual behavior, most guys are surprisingly honest when anonymity is a factor. We’ve spoken about porn, oral sex, prostitution, lust, marriage, thoughts, immorality, intimacy, desires, homosexuality, masturbation, sexual abuse, incest, greed, and idolatry. I’ve eaten meals with pastors, executives, bankers, doctors, religious people, church planters, frat guys, students, entrepreneurs, traffickers, and average guys that work 40 hours a week and stay relatively pure.”
- Get the Latest Pornography Statistics. “German poet Heinrich Heine said you cannot feed the hungry on statistics. Well-researched stats can only illuminate the problem, not solve it. But for many the problem of pornography in our modern culture still needs a spotlight. What do some of the latest stats tell us about this sexual-media giant?”
- My Daughter Has Been Looking at Porn: Advice to Christian Parents. This is great, and sadly a bigger problem than people suspect.
- My Personal Purity Battle Plan: 28 Things I Try to Never Forget. “I’ve learned the hard way that pornography addiction will never be broken unless there’s genuine biblical repentance, and I’ve also learned the hard way that genuine biblical repentance always requires radical life changes. To break the chains of pornography addiction, I had to go beyond the never-ending cycle of sin-guilt-shame-sorrow-confession-rededication-repeat.”
- The Porn-Free Family. Tim Challies’s plan to combat porn in his house.
- Rebuilding Shattered Trust. “If you’re a married man who’s sexually sinned, then someone precious and close to you has been damaged, and you can’t move on until you’ve considered her, just like Nehemiah assessed the walls: up close and personal. That’s how rebuilding begins.”
- Sick of Seeing “Those Images”? Omnomnomify Them. An AWESOME tool.
- 5 Mistakes Parents Make When It Comes to Talking About Porn.
- 5 Signs Your Son or Daughter Might Be Struggling with Porn. “Hindsight is always 20/20. In so many areas of life, when we look back on things that have happened we ask, “Why didn’t I see the signs? I should have seen this coming.””
- Are you a Calvinist? Rethinking Theological Labels. “When dialoging about theological convictions, one owes it to others to be honest and forthright, but one also owes it to himself to be wise. To sign on to a label that has morphed in meaning beyond one’s own comfort zone, or has been hijacked by others altogether, may be unwise and, in its own way, misrepresentative.”
- Some Thoughts on “I Weep for Miley”. “This has been an unusual week for me as a blogger. I wrote a blog post on Monday evening, “I Weep for Miley,” which was atypical in its tone and scheduling. Within a few hours, it went viral, leading to more than 80K shares and 400K views. In the comments section and personal FaceBook messages, I received a lot of feedback and some criticism as well. I thought it might be helpful to address a few of the most recurring questions.”
- Thinking Evangelically About Tim Tebow. “But I’m a little concerned about the way many of my fellow evangelicals think about the phenomenon that is Tim Tebow, and I’m a little concerned about the way Tim Tebow may think about the phenomenon that is Tim Tebow. I think in general evangelicals could think more evangelically — which is to say, guided by the gospel, soberly.”
Sex and Modesty
- The Conversation You Must Have With Your Sons. An open letter on talking about rape with your sons.
- Modesty Matters: The Heart of Modesty. “I find modesty a fascinating subject exactly because we find it so difficult to discuss it well. I plan to share some thoughts on modesty in just a couple of articles. I want to encourage us all to be men and women marked by modesty—modest men and modest women clothed in the gospel of Jesus Christ. (Note: Modesty can cover a wide range of character including speech and behavior, but in this series I will speak only about modesty in dress.)”
- Rihanna’s vague voguing in The Independent. “What does “improper” mean when it comes to Rihanna — the Bajan pop star? The Independent in London circles hesitantly rounds this word in its report on Rihanna’s publicity stunt at a mosque in Abu Dhabi last week, but never quite explains what she did that violated Islamic taboos.”
- 6 Marks of Biblical Modesty. “Modesty is a controversial topic, especially when you throw God into the mix. For some, they simply cannot fathom, amidst all the great injustices in the world, that God actually cares if a girl wears skin-tight pants with the word “Juicy” written on them. But in the end, it is the Word of God that should drive our discussions about modesty. What has God revealed about it?”
- I challenged hackers to investigate me and what they found out is chilling. “I challenged Nicholas Percoco, senior vice president of SpiderLabs, the advanced research and ethical hacking team at Trustwave, to perform a personal “pen-test,” industry-speak for “penetration test.” The idea grew out of a cover story I wrote for Forbes some 14 years earlier, when I retained a private detective to investigate me, starting with just my byline. In a week he pulled up an astonishing amount of information, everything from my social security number and mother’s maiden name to long distance phone records, including who I called and for how long, my rent, bank accounts, stock holdings, and utility bills.”
- The Logic of Stupid Poor People. “We hates us some poor people. First, they insist on being poor when it is so easy to not be poor. They do things like buy expensive designer belts and $2500 luxury handbags.”
- Really? Stop with the faux outrage. “While the UK, Canada and India continue to criticise Sri Lanka’s human rights record, Tony Abbott’s government has decided to gift Sri Lanka two Navy vessels to stop asylum seekers escaping their country. What’s the big deal?”
- What’s wrong with rights?. “Now don’t get me wrong: I am not saying that individual rights always promote sinfulness. They can be used to good ends. However, the system can be easily adapted to selfish ends. And given the human propensity to sin, this is a serious flaw.”
- Why Generation Y Yuppies Are Unhappy. I think this has some excellent insight.
- 4 Ways Your Education Was a Conspiracy to Make You Bored. “Some schools have dropped cursive, but it’s still a part of the curriculum in over 50 percent of American public schools. Why? I learned it when I was a kid but have never once used it in my life (my signature is a drawing of a middle finger wearing cool-guy sunglasses). This realization made me wonder what other shockingly outdated practices are still persisting in education, so I did some digging …”
- 5 Unexpected Downsides of High Intelligence. “You know that phrase, “Ignorance is bliss”? There’s a reason it’s stuck around all these years. Because having the upper hand in intelligence might give you an advantage in some areas, like crossword puzzle solving and quantum physics-ing, but it also might just screw up your life forever.”
- 6 Ridiculous Science Myths You Learned in Kindergarten.
- Wait but Why? This is why. The inevitable response to Why Generation Y Yuppies Are Unhappy.
- I’m a Christian and my house just burned down. A great post on suffering.
- Joyce Meyer. A good response to Joyce Meyer, and why she is a false teacher.
- The Rise of Moralistic Therapeutic Deism. “According to MTD, God does exist, and it’s His job to meet my needs, like a “Grandfather in Heaven”, as CS Lewis discusses in his work, “The Problem of Pain”.
- The Things That Should Really Be On Our Bucket List. “Maybe we’ve got it all wrong. Maybe instead of pursuing awesome we should pursue average. The things that are average in the eyes of the world are magnificent in God’s eyes. The things that are boring in the eyes of world are breathtaking in God’s eyes. God isn’t impressed by those who fulfill their dreams, he is impressed by those who faithfully obey. God isn’t impressed by those who claw their way to the top, he is impressed by those who fight their way to the bottom. God isn’t impressed by dreamers, he is impressed by servants.”
- Where did Halloween come from? Can a Christian celebrate it? This is a great and informative look at this topic.
- What is repentance and is it necessary for salvation?.
- Why good people don’t go to heaven and bad people don’t go to hell. “Trying to climb the ladder is a nightmare. It will either turn you off Christianity, or it will create people who will turn you off Christianity.”